dheadley @dheadley@learningdisability.social

I’ve officially deleted the Twitter app from my iPhone, iPad and MacBook.

I’m a business so I can’t deactivate my profile like others did, but it is at least gone from my devices.

I know I keep saying this, but the longer I go without Twitter, the more I realize how much the stuff everyone posts was destabilizing me.

I felt like I couldn’t let go of trauma and didn’t know why, but was getting depressed, and turns out it was just the crap people tweet.

Leaving will likely hurt my business a bit, but my mental health is more important than profits.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #neurodiversity

@actuallyautistic @peppernut @astrotemp @rabia_elizabeth
And then the time after the appointment is spent recovering from it (and ruminating about what was said or not said during the appointment)!

@pantransautie @actuallyautistic yep, same, surprisingly common experience. did you happen to be informed the moment your autistic ass ate shit in college?

being a kid in the 90's iunno whether my receiving "help" would have been good given what was being done at the time, but internalizing all that hatred for shit because i couldn't do "normal people" things right, that i just had some fundamental moral failing for not handling noise well or wanting to eat hte same food over and over or not emoting properly and being called a sociopath, like *fuck* why the hell did you treat me like i was so fucking awful if you fucking KNEW why it was beyond my control the entire time?

Made an iOS Shortcut to let you follow someone from a different Mastodon instance without the copy/paste hoop-jumping.

https://www.icloud.com/shortcuts/e109c8e6b8c0420c902134049b13c064

Once added to your Shortcuts app, you can share a Profile (or webpage or text that contains a profile link or username) to this Shortcut to be taken to the Follow confirmation page without ever copying or pasting anything.

Let me know if you find it helpful or run into any issues.

#iOS #Shortcuts #Projects

200 genealogists are now listed in the directory of #Geneadons https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/10AsFTNHC2LwjU7_XrQ_IxjcEjqv-4uMdLfO-L6q0cXY/edit?usp=drivesdk

There is no perfection without iteration.

@besenwagen @actuallyautistic At least i have learned to not mention how i really feel about my performance in the dreaded self evaluation. Once i learned of the rank and yank process the corporations love so much, i realized it is not a safe space to collaborate on personal growth. They don't deserve our best anyway.

I guess if they're still willing to run my coin, I'll continue pretending to be the good employee they pretend I am. It's all so fulfilling.

If you see this toot (yeah this one right here), can you boost it for me? It will help my new server federate with the wider Mastodon network. 🚀 🙏

One thing I think I like a lot about starting over on Mastodon is that my Follower count is likely pretty pure and not riddled with follow bots. I'm pretty confident you are all human and I appreciate that immensely.

@shoq @tchambers @jeffjarvis @dangillmor tbh the fact that Kara is propping up Post while dissing Mastodon just makes me realize we got trapped by an ecosystem of gatekeepers and cheerleaders during the last round in 2007-2008, and we shouldn't be so quick to leap back into the fire this round.

I'm not at all convinced Masto has cracked the puzzle, but I'd rather be part of building the solution than return to platform feudalism again.

This week has been stressful for a number of reasons, today has been even more stressful in part because a project I am working on is not going to plan due to external-reasons.
I just feel completely burnt out.
The positive: Knowing my diagnosises now however means I am not beating myself up about how I “should” be handling this. Instead I feel comfortable with taking a step back and give myself grace.
@actuallyautistic #actuallyaustic #adhd

I feel like my mental health has been better since joining Mastodon last Thursday.

I spent some time in a funk and sad.

Twitter was showing me lots of things that were triggering, and I’d connect with people on shared traumas.

Some tweets made me cry from triggers, and it upset me the tweeter didn’t care about doing that to people.

Positivity isn’t exactly the most popular thing on Twitter. People wanted to argue and attack each other, and it felt like I was on an island by myself trying to stay out of it.

But here everyone has the same desire for positivity, wholesomeness, and peace away from all the nonsense.

We have a great community and I feel like I fit in here.

It’s nice. Haven’t really had that before.

You’re all good people.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #neurodiversity

Out of curiosity, if you're #ActuallyAutistic, do you have small or unusually small ear canals?

I ask because I do, and I've seen it anecdotally mentioned a lot when discussing ear protection--the need for smaller sizes for in-ear options. But that may be simple bias or something else.

Please boost for reach.
@actuallyautistic

I've created a small, incomplete, list of instances with moderators of color.

The list and suggestions became to much to keep up on my own, so here is a Google document, https://docs.google.com/document/d/12pTmSMpq8lMYyYlHT25DgTmdMmE6ysUyRHGiq-E4XdQ/edit?usp=sharingp

Here's how to move accounts and take your followers with you https://docs.joinmastodon.org/user/moving/

#BlackMastodon #BlackTwitter #BlackFedi #FediTips #TwitterMigration #MastoAdmin

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#Genealogy #Geneadons

For people who don’t have great family relationships, this weekend can be really tough. Just know that I see you and I’m holding you in my heart as you go through it. 💜

This is Lemon, our most aloof floof and fearsome predator. She always looks sarcastic. She enjoys sitting on humans’ faces as a way of dominating these large prey items. She’s obsessed with my husband’s beard. She also has the huskiest miaow of all the cats.

@devxvda @actuallyautistic I use loop quiet in the shower because I can’t tolerate the sound of the water on the tile. It creates a different experience that doesn’t bother me, but took some getting used to: water on my head sounds very different because I hear it through bone conduction instead of air conduction. Now it’s almost comforting. Feels like a warm cocoon. Might be worth thinking about using them to add desirable sounds to your life (if you enjoy sounds at all).

I use loop experience (and more recently loop engage) for social situations where I want to hear conversation. For me, that doesn’t work as well because I hear my own voice too much (or my own chewing if it’s a meal). Sometimes it helps me to take one ear out so I get a mix of internal echo and external sound. Both are toned down a bit by the mix. Still not perfect.

I wish there were a hearing aid-like product that gave the wearer the ability to finely tune sound frequencies and volumes like a studio mixing board using a phone app.

Hi again #DisabilityMastodon - I work for the Remote Access Archive. We’re documenting how we collectively curated remote access both before and since the start of COVID. With twitter crumbling, I want to know: what were your favorite / most memorable #DisabilityTwitter hashtags?

Pls boost + add your faves in the replies! (And hmu if you’d like to be interviewed / submit a self-narrative about remote access)