dheadley @dheadley@learningdisability.social

I would like to update my Podcasts for Genealogy category and I need your help! Let me know what podcasts you listen to and I will be sure to add them to the list. See what I already have here: https://www.cyndislist.com/podcasts
Share them here or use the Submit a New Link form on the site: https://www.cyndislist.com/submit/

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If you buy my books I hope they entertain you. Any music you're given, I hope it suffuses you. If there's a painting or really cool graffiti crossing your eyes, I hope it roots you to the spot. I hope, as we go into 2023, a better notion of the future possesses you. A good future. One that you're not fearful of or creating fear in. I hope you realize if there ain't no beauty you got to create some beauty. I hope whatever gods flit above and swim below have mercy. Here's to your bright smile.

When I'm stuck, I do "housekeeping" on my ancestry trees. I inherited my account from my mother, and in the beginning I was a little sloppy myself. So now that I've committed to particular standard formats for place names and dates, I traverse a branch of the tree and reformat those, and make sure the sources are properly cited, and check any new hints. I almost always end up finding some new #genealogy information.

@thedogspaw @DAR31337 @divergentiafaux @actuallyautistic I tried ritalin as an adult and it was erratic in how I responded, some days were great, other days not working as well, but the worst thing which was absolutely horrible was when it wore off at night. There was a classic rebound effect where my ADHD lack of focus came back with a vengeance, and my mind would slide all over the place and I didn't know what was happening at first.

@theautisticcoach
I'm struggling with the thought of telling my (young adult) children that I'm #ActuallyAutistic. I'm anticipating the two questions that fill me with utter dread: 'Since when?' and 'Says who?'. I just know that I'll get angry and kill the conversation then meltdown for days. I'm neither embarrassed nor ashamed just HATE answering questions. How do I do it whilst protecting myself mentally?

@thekimmy @LivaBattleangel
If I may suggest a couple more?
‘But You Don’t Look Autistic At All’ by Bianca Toeps goes through the DSM criteria for Autism from an #Autistic POV plus lots of relatable stories as well.
Also, ‘Ten Steps to Nanette’ by Hannah Gadsby & ‘A Kind Of Spark’ by Elle McNicoll
#AmIAutistic #ActuallyAutistic

Today we had a major win. For years my youngest #actuallyautistic daughter has been doing dance and now singing. Every time we got to a recital she would freeze with terror and refuse to go on stage.

Afterwards, she would always be regretful that as she put it was a "big chicken”. We always told her not to worry it will happen when it was ready to happen.

Today she surprised everyone, but most of all herself when she made it on stage and through the full performance.

“You're comprised of 84 minerals, 23 Elements & 8galls of water spread over 38 trillion cells.

You're built from nothing by the spare parts of the Earth you've consumed according to a set of instructions hidden in a double helix, small enough to be carried by a sperm.

You're recycled butterflies, plants, rocks, streams, firewood, wolf fur & shark teeth, broken down to their smallest parts & rebuilt into our planets most complex living thing.

You're not living on Earth, you are Earth.”

- Aubrey Marcus

#quotes

Congresswoman Vicky Hartzler who cried at the thought of gay marriage…has a wonderful and brilliant gay nephew who had this message for his aunt on TikTok.

@avuko @divergentiafaux @actuallyautistic Thanks for the examples! I match 17 of these 27; I suspect that I have autistic spectrum disorder, but never attempted a diagnostic. I'm more expressive writing than speaking.

@obrerx @actuallyautistic Autism and trauma certainly overlap in how they're expressed. I have PTSD and my husband is certain he has a mild form of autism. We've meshed well since the day we met.Just being understood makes it easier to cope with daily life. You shouldn't judge yourself for not handling things the way you think you should.

A non-exhaustive list of #autistic love languages I have seen in myself or my friends or partner

- gentle biting
- infodumping
- stimming/making silly noises together
- quoting movies at eachother
- "I'm gonna hug you but don't hug me back"
- parallel play
- "I found a cool rock/leaf/shell do you want it?"
- deep pressure hugs

@actuallyautistic

@DAR31337 @divergentiafaux Autistics tend to create and follow routines, are often methodical, tend to do things the same way each time, including things like washing the dishes or ordinary tasks. This is what separates it from being purely from trauma. It's more of finding comfort in sameness, finding something consistent in an otherwise chaotic world that is always on the edge of overwhelm. It's anchoring perhaps, and it also helps us navigate through the constant changes going on around us by finding "rules" to guide us through. The world seems always changing, we try to find islands of consistency. That's what it seems like to me, anyway. I first discovered I was ADHD some 22 years ago, then realized there was more going on, and was later diagnosed as autistic as well.

I just wanted to say how happy I am here at Mastodon. People here are decidedly human. Kind humans. Ones that are able to have a conversation without spewing propaganda. Ones that respect one another. Being here gives me hope that all isn't lost, and that there are enough of us to make the world brighter.

Please, everyone, keep this alive. We need discourse. We need kindness. We need each other.

#ilovemastodon
#MastodonIsNotTwitter
#mastodonishome

Discovering My Diagnosis
I've spoken with Lindsay Guentzel a couple of times about ADHD, both as a provider who helps people with this diagnosis and as a person who lives with the symptoms. Check out my episode of her podcast, Refocused Together, below. If you enjoy it, subscribe to hear even more people share their stories!

For more free resources, blogs, and webinars about ADHD, check out ADH
https://resiliencymentalhealth.com/2022/12/08/discovering-my-diagnosis/
#Uncategorized

It's now 701 days since Donald Trump's Jan 6 terrorist attack. Not only has Trump not been charged with even one crime, he's now running for President where he's actively spewing more lies to delegitimize our democracy.
Long past Time for Merrick Garland to INDICT TRUMP!!

@loops @actuallyautistic Yes. It's called executive dysfunction. I hate it.

@actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe

PSA: Please remember that the ActuallyAutistic hashtag is for people who are themselves autistic. It should not be used by the parents, siblings, cousins, friends, doctors, teachers, psychologists, occupational therapists, or anything else of autistic people.

Most of us have had more than enough of people talking about and for us while not letting us speak for ourselves. Listen and let us be heard. We are autistic, and we are using this hashtag for our actual lived experiences. #ActuallyAutistic