@adhdcanadian One you can share with somebody you trust, in my case!

I'm currently using Microsoft To Do because it's the best compromise that works okay for both my wife and I. That's been much more effective than the tool I was using before (Org Mode) even though I found Org Mode a much better tool - purely because the one thing it does better is share tasks.

Having daily quick check ins with someone you trust beats software/process every time if it's an option.