dheadley @dheadley@learningdisability.social

Today we had a major win. For years my youngest #actuallyautistic daughter has been doing dance and now singing. Every time we got to a recital she would freeze with terror and refuse to go on stage.

Afterwards, she would always be regretful that as she put it was a "big chicken”. We always told her not to worry it will happen when it was ready to happen.

Today she surprised everyone, but most of all herself when she made it on stage and through the full performance.

Congresswoman Vicky Hartzler who cried at the thought of gay marriage…has a wonderful and brilliant gay nephew who had this message for his aunt on TikTok.

@avuko @divergentiafaux @actuallyautistic Thanks for the examples! I match 17 of these 27; I suspect that I have autistic spectrum disorder, but never attempted a diagnostic. I'm more expressive writing than speaking.

@obrerx @actuallyautistic Autism and trauma certainly overlap in how they're expressed. I have PTSD and my husband is certain he has a mild form of autism. We've meshed well since the day we met.Just being understood makes it easier to cope with daily life. You shouldn't judge yourself for not handling things the way you think you should.

A non-exhaustive list of #autistic love languages I have seen in myself or my friends or partner

- gentle biting
- infodumping
- stimming/making silly noises together
- quoting movies at eachother
- "I'm gonna hug you but don't hug me back"
- parallel play
- "I found a cool rock/leaf/shell do you want it?"
- deep pressure hugs

@actuallyautistic

@DAR31337 @divergentiafaux Autistics tend to create and follow routines, are often methodical, tend to do things the same way each time, including things like washing the dishes or ordinary tasks. This is what separates it from being purely from trauma. It's more of finding comfort in sameness, finding something consistent in an otherwise chaotic world that is always on the edge of overwhelm. It's anchoring perhaps, and it also helps us navigate through the constant changes going on around us by finding "rules" to guide us through. The world seems always changing, we try to find islands of consistency. That's what it seems like to me, anyway. I first discovered I was ADHD some 22 years ago, then realized there was more going on, and was later diagnosed as autistic as well.

I just wanted to say how happy I am here at Mastodon. People here are decidedly human. Kind humans. Ones that are able to have a conversation without spewing propaganda. Ones that respect one another. Being here gives me hope that all isn't lost, and that there are enough of us to make the world brighter.

Please, everyone, keep this alive. We need discourse. We need kindness. We need each other.

#ilovemastodon
#MastodonIsNotTwitter
#mastodonishome

Discovering My Diagnosis
I've spoken with Lindsay Guentzel a couple of times about ADHD, both as a provider who helps people with this diagnosis and as a person who lives with the symptoms. Check out my episode of her podcast, Refocused Together, below. If you enjoy it, subscribe to hear even more people share their stories!

For more free resources, blogs, and webinars about ADHD, check out ADH
https://resiliencymentalhealth.com/2022/12/08/discovering-my-diagnosis/
#Uncategorized

It's now 701 days since Donald Trump's Jan 6 terrorist attack. Not only has Trump not been charged with even one crime, he's now running for President where he's actively spewing more lies to delegitimize our democracy.
Long past Time for Merrick Garland to INDICT TRUMP!!

@loops @actuallyautistic Yes. It's called executive dysfunction. I hate it.

@actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe

PSA: Please remember that the ActuallyAutistic hashtag is for people who are themselves autistic. It should not be used by the parents, siblings, cousins, friends, doctors, teachers, psychologists, occupational therapists, or anything else of autistic people.

Most of us have had more than enough of people talking about and for us while not letting us speak for ourselves. Listen and let us be heard. We are autistic, and we are using this hashtag for our actual lived experiences. #ActuallyAutistic

@NomadicNerd @Clouddweller @actuallyautistic My 24 year ASD son is much the same - typing, communication skills, vocabulary and eye contact all good but his handwriting never developed despite physio and other support at school and college. They don't seem to understand that it's a spectrum and one size does not fit all. Glad that your son is doing well.

We are looking to connect with as many Autistic people as possible on Mastodon.

Please RT this message if you are Autistic and wish to connect with other Autists!

Thank you! 😊

@todd Thankfully, Google web.dev is adding three testing modules in their new "Learn Accessibility" course that will feature different testing tools and techniques - automated, manual, and AT. It is a beginner course and cannot cover everything (nor is that the focus), but at least it will expose people to more testing options. Hopefully, in time that will result in fewer people relying on Lighthouse and only Lighthouse. One can dream at least

Hello!

I'm #autistic with #ADHD and #PTSD. Also #depression and #anxiety. Self-diagnosed. And let's throw #perimenopause into the mix. Doing my best to cope.

Wish to get diagnosed but there's no easy way and I just get overwhelmed and frustrated by the options, or the lack thereof.

The number of people who get me irl: 1. 🙃 I'm happily married to him, 17 years and counting. No kids, no pets. Just plants.

I'm a #POC in an #interracial marriage. We're both heathens.

I like #photography, #travel, #crochet, #baking, #houseplants, British crime dramas, and Oxford comma.

Nice to meet you!

#introduction

Are you Australian and identify as #neurodivergent? Do you see yourself as a supporter of someone who is neurodivergent?
Maybe you are Australian, or maybe you are not.

As long as you meet two of these characteristics, you will be welcome here with open arms.

This instance is home to the strange, weird and kooky.

All personal identity information is held on servers hosted in Sydney Australia

#neurodiversity #actuallyautistic
#actuallyadhd
@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

If you see this toot (yeah this one right here), can you boost it for me? It will help my new server federate with the wider Mastodon network. 🚀 🙏

Thanks to anyone who can do this. It is really appreciated! This server is small but will be hosting several #peace #SocialJustice and #Humanistic groups, so it is for a good cause.

In my new weekly #ActuallyAutistic online discussion and affirmation circles we will be looking at different topics that relate to our community, from unmasking and trauma, to Aut-ADHD relationships and #LongCovid. Join as fits your interest & schedule! https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discussion-affirmation-circles

@actuallyautistic
One week on Mastodon. Never been on any sort of social media before, I know 58 years old and @actuallyautistic who knew? and it's been amazing (I would put loads of emojis and sparkly stuff but I have now idea how)
Thank you to everyone who has read and appreciated what I have tooted. But please be aware that I am still new to all of this and still finding my way, so please continue to be patient as I am learning as fast as I can.

NVLD with social deficits is a form of ASD so they presumably failed to exclude us.