dheadley @dheadley@learningdisability.social

Which of my #ActuallyAutistic followers want to build community and meet their fellow #Autistic comrades to learn and grow together?

I am leading FIVE new groups starting over the next few weeks and I'd love for you to join.

Each week we will focus on different topics which change depending on the group and what everyone’s focus is at a given time. Some of the topics include:

How to Identify & Manage Emotions - Unmasking Strategies - Focusing on Your Strengths - Coping Tools, Executive Dysfunction - Pathological Demand Avoidance - Late Diagnoses & Finding Your Autistic Self -
Coming to Terms with Your Diagnosis - Managing Day-to-Day Life

There is a suggested participation fee but NO ONE is turned down due to finances. If the suggested fee will pose a hardship to you, please contact me directly and we will make arrangements.

For dates and times: https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-group-coaching

For testimonials from past participants: https://www.theautisticcoach.com/testimonials-autistic-life-coaching

@theautisticcoach Weirdly enough, I was diagnosed as an adult without any period of self-identification beforehand and without my knowledge. There was no defining moment, I didn't have any chance to explore it as a possibility before it simply was.

I saw a psychiatrist here in the UK in 2019 when I first arrived in the country, and he listed "ASD" in my medical notes, revoking my previous (mis)diagnoses. It was really that obvious to him. Never went back to him because he was flakey, so I didn't find out until ~early 2021 when I checked the NHS app looking for my COVID vaccination record and saw ASD there.

I chose to have a proper full assessment (privately) in 2021 to explore my support needs. It was weird to be assessed while also already knowing I was autistic, so there was really no space for doubt.

I wish someone had followed up in 2019. I struggled so much that year, and things are so much easier now I know.

Digital books do wear out – just like digital music, digital films and video games - @glynmoody reflects on a great blog post by @brewster_kahle from the @internetarchive https://blog.archive.org/2022/11/15/digital-books-wear-out-faster-than-physical-books/

Glyn's take 👉 https://walledculture.org/digital-books-do-wear-out-just-like-digital-music-digital-films-and-video-games/

#WalledCulture #CulturalHeritage #eBooks

Do you have ancestors who arrived on the Mayflower? If so which immigrants do you descend from? List them below and meet your distant cousins for today #HappyThanksgiving #happythanksgiving2022 #Geneadons #Genealogy #Histodons #PlymouthColony #Histodons #GenealogySurvey

From 39.4 miles away from #Plymouth #Massachusetts I am wishing all of you a very #HappyThanksgiving    - I am thankful for your comments, reposts and friendship all year long. My warmest wishes to all my fellow #Geneadons and #Histodons and your family! #Genealogy #1621 #History #PlymouthColony

I’ve officially deleted the Twitter app from my iPhone, iPad and MacBook.

I’m a business so I can’t deactivate my profile like others did, but it is at least gone from my devices.

I know I keep saying this, but the longer I go without Twitter, the more I realize how much the stuff everyone posts was destabilizing me.

I felt like I couldn’t let go of trauma and didn’t know why, but was getting depressed, and turns out it was just the crap people tweet.

Leaving will likely hurt my business a bit, but my mental health is more important than profits.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #neurodiversity

@actuallyautistic @peppernut @astrotemp @rabia_elizabeth
And then the time after the appointment is spent recovering from it (and ruminating about what was said or not said during the appointment)!

@pantransautie @actuallyautistic yep, same, surprisingly common experience. did you happen to be informed the moment your autistic ass ate shit in college?

being a kid in the 90's iunno whether my receiving "help" would have been good given what was being done at the time, but internalizing all that hatred for shit because i couldn't do "normal people" things right, that i just had some fundamental moral failing for not handling noise well or wanting to eat hte same food over and over or not emoting properly and being called a sociopath, like *fuck* why the hell did you treat me like i was so fucking awful if you fucking KNEW why it was beyond my control the entire time?

Made an iOS Shortcut to let you follow someone from a different Mastodon instance without the copy/paste hoop-jumping.

https://www.icloud.com/shortcuts/e109c8e6b8c0420c902134049b13c064

Once added to your Shortcuts app, you can share a Profile (or webpage or text that contains a profile link or username) to this Shortcut to be taken to the Follow confirmation page without ever copying or pasting anything.

Let me know if you find it helpful or run into any issues.

#iOS #Shortcuts #Projects

200 genealogists are now listed in the directory of #Geneadons https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/10AsFTNHC2LwjU7_XrQ_IxjcEjqv-4uMdLfO-L6q0cXY/edit?usp=drivesdk

There is no perfection without iteration.

@besenwagen @actuallyautistic At least i have learned to not mention how i really feel about my performance in the dreaded self evaluation. Once i learned of the rank and yank process the corporations love so much, i realized it is not a safe space to collaborate on personal growth. They don't deserve our best anyway.

I guess if they're still willing to run my coin, I'll continue pretending to be the good employee they pretend I am. It's all so fulfilling.

If you see this toot (yeah this one right here), can you boost it for me? It will help my new server federate with the wider Mastodon network. 🚀 🙏

One thing I think I like a lot about starting over on Mastodon is that my Follower count is likely pretty pure and not riddled with follow bots. I'm pretty confident you are all human and I appreciate that immensely.

@shoq @tchambers @jeffjarvis @dangillmor tbh the fact that Kara is propping up Post while dissing Mastodon just makes me realize we got trapped by an ecosystem of gatekeepers and cheerleaders during the last round in 2007-2008, and we shouldn't be so quick to leap back into the fire this round.

I'm not at all convinced Masto has cracked the puzzle, but I'd rather be part of building the solution than return to platform feudalism again.

This week has been stressful for a number of reasons, today has been even more stressful in part because a project I am working on is not going to plan due to external-reasons.
I just feel completely burnt out.
The positive: Knowing my diagnosises now however means I am not beating myself up about how I “should” be handling this. Instead I feel comfortable with taking a step back and give myself grace.
@actuallyautistic #actuallyaustic #adhd

I feel like my mental health has been better since joining Mastodon last Thursday.

I spent some time in a funk and sad.

Twitter was showing me lots of things that were triggering, and I’d connect with people on shared traumas.

Some tweets made me cry from triggers, and it upset me the tweeter didn’t care about doing that to people.

Positivity isn’t exactly the most popular thing on Twitter. People wanted to argue and attack each other, and it felt like I was on an island by myself trying to stay out of it.

But here everyone has the same desire for positivity, wholesomeness, and peace away from all the nonsense.

We have a great community and I feel like I fit in here.

It’s nice. Haven’t really had that before.

You’re all good people.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #neurodiversity